Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional!

Life sure does throw some curve balls.

Sometimes it even throws you ones that you thought you’d never have to face again.

You see, this isn’t the first time I have been down this road. This was my third brain haemorrhage, in my short 30 years walking this Earth.

Some would call this unfortunate and unlucky. Not me!

I believe that everything in life happens for a reason. And while some experiences are difficult, painful and damn right challenging – they tend to teach us an extraordinary amount about life… if we are prepared to listen.

As a child, it taught me patience, determination and resilience.

As an adult, it is teaching me that accepting things the way they are, and the way they are not, is where inner peace and calmness can be found. It has taught me that suffering IS optional.

What do I mean by this? Well, we live in a world where there is an extraordinary amount of suffering that goes on around us, whether it be our own personal suffering or the suffering of others.

Suffering, to me, is a state of mind. It is a choice – a choice in which we have control over.

Pain is just a fact of life – each person will experience pain, in varying degrees. Some more than others. But as an individual, we have a choice over the impact that pain has on lives.

We can carry it around with us and let it weigh us down. Or, we can acknowledge that it is there and make a conscious choice to let it go.

I continue to witness so much unnecessary suffering, day in and day out, over such trivial and small issues in the grand scheme of things. I see the impact that this suffering has on one’s happiness and wellbeing – an often-heavy toll.

It took me a lot of time to realise that much of this suffering is unconscious. So many, are not aware of the choices that they have in their own experience of suffering!

As humans, we make thousands of choices every day. For many, the impact of those choices is made with little thought into whether they serve us in a positive or a negative way.

As a child, I would often spend large amounts of time in hospital. In this time, I witnessed so many people who had all kinds of illnesses and injuries. What stuck with me, is that some of those people never wiped the smile off their faces, no matter what going on for them. Their positivity danced through hospital corridors like the sweetest music, touching the hearts of those who were fortunate enough to be in their presence.

It was here, I started to learn that mind-set plays such a large part in determining our experience of things.

It was here that I learnt that you can CHOOSE to suffer as much, or as little as YOU want.

Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional ~  Haruki Murakami

With Gratitude,

Rani