“Not everyone can be as positive and grateful after a brain injury as you”.
I have heard this statement, or something to the same effect countless times over the years.
But let me tell you, it hasn’t all been sunshine and rainbows.
After my first brain injury in 1996, life was incredibly difficult. Nothing came easy! I was left with complete right side paralysis, a serious speech impediment, very poor coordination, epilepsy, and a dodgy memory just to name a few in a long list of issues.
The icing on the cake came a few short months after – a second brain haemorrhage. All of that hard work unravelled faster than a Learjet darting across the sky.
There I was again, stripped bare. I hit rock bottom!
For years on end, I struggled through the gruelling hours spent in rehabilitation. My childhood a blur of appointments from one specialist to another, surgeries and hours upon hours spent working on all the issues every week.
It was relentless and unforgiving to say the least. I struggled. I fell. I fought. I cried. I got angry. I got frustrated. I wished it was different. I wanted to give up….But I didn’t!
I was not going to let my brain injury, or any other life struggle beat me. That, I was sure of. I had made up my mind!
You see, as humans, we have this extraordinary ability to choose one thought over another.
So, I chose to tell myself that ‘no matter what, I’ve got this!’
I said it over and over again, in a million different ways. The more I said it, the more I believed it. The more I believed it, the more my life transformed!
No, it wasn’t a quick overnight ‘wham, bam, thank you ma’am’ kind of fix. It took years of patience, perseverance, dedication and an unwavering determination to turn my struggles into stepping-stones, that would lead me to creating a life that I love living – flaws, struggles and all.
We all face challenges in life. How we choose to respond to those challenges, is what defines us!
Now that’s not to say that we don’t all have bad days. I’d be lying if I told you that it is all smooth sailing…Because it sure isn’t. Some days are tough. I mean, really tough.
But every day, you get the opportunity to steer your thoughts to either looking at the positives or the negatives of anything.
Whatever you choose to focus on, will appear.
So I chose to look on the positive side – the more positive thoughts I had, the more my mindset changed, and the more opportunities I saw.
You too, have a choice. You can go through life, noticing all the negative stuff and choosing to let it get you down, or you can focus on all the things that are going right for you. All you have to do is choose where you are going to put your energy!
Where energy goes, energy flows!
The choice is up to you. Where are you putting your energy?